J.K. Rowling returns human rights award amid criticism from organization

[LynnInDenver]

Yeah, and there's the added problem with the argument of "but they had the privilege beforehand" and "but they were socialized as male", and that is that it disregards the fact that being socialized as someone you're not is inherently traumatic.

I do agree that the misery poker should not be a thing because it's so damned divisive... I tend to avoid people who play that game. There are women issues I've finally become aware of since I started my transition, but it doesn't disqualify my own experiences of dealing with trying to live as something I'm inherently not (my first hint of having the issue was in 1979 at five years old, which should give you some idea of how inherent it is), nor does it make my experiences worse then theirs. I just have a different set of experiences with how life is for those who are not the complete combination of White, Male, Straight and Cis.

There's a term used for the sort of feminist who insists that being assigned male at birth is an automatic "no" vote for anything other than still being lumped in with the "assigned and is" male population... TERF, an acronym for trans-exclusionary radical feminist. There is a studied ignorance of the overlap of issues with regards to how society treats gender involved in the view that trans women can't be considered women at all, and that studied ignorance is in the fact that trans women are being harmed by many of the same structures and attitudes that also harm women, abetted by the fact that from the outside it looks like we're making a choice while disregarding that many times that choice is between "do I remain miserable to the point of active self harm, bad coping strategies and maybe suicide" and "living as who I am regardless of how many people that might want to scream in my face that who I am is not compatible with their views of who I should have been, and at least be capable of looking in the bathroom mirror and not hating what I see every damned day."

Hazard has it right... I'm willing to support people who support me... those who insist I shouldn't get their support, I don't feel like wasting the energy to give them support.