Quote:You're right, that's a bad choice of words. In fact, fetishes are rarely static - if nothing else, it's been pretty well documented that as you get more of what turns you on, the more you want and the more picky you are about it.
I've always had doubts about this, for no other reason than that my own preferences have changed significantly over time.
But they're still wired in the brain, even if not permanently and unchangingly so. And they don't really have to make any sense.
Perhaps your disconnect stems from the assumption that women who fantasize about being raped actually want to be raped in real life? I would wager that this is not at all the case. Their fantasies about nonconsensual sex don't mean they actually want to have nonconsensual sex, any more than every person who likes furry art actually wants to have sex with animals or people in fursuits.